In you the orphan finds mercy. Hosea 14:3

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Concerns & The Facts

Bart and I were very concerned of the implications adopting an HIV+ child would have for our entire family. I did a lot of reading and would love to share with you what we have learned. Most of this came from the Positively Adopted website-link is on the sidebar.

Risk Vs. Reward

We like to think that we would never intentionally put ourselves or our children 'at risk'. However it is helpful to keep in mind that every day we make a choice between Risk and Reward.

If we consider these activities to be worth the risk, then surely having the love of a child and the privilege of saving a life is worth the comparably small and (according to experts) FAR less dangerous 'risk'.

93 deaths every DAY in car accidents-that’s 4 every hour

10 deaths every DAY from swimming accidents

8 deaths every DAY from fire accidents

4.9 deaths every DAY from falling on stairs

2.5 deaths every DAY from choking

1.5 deaths every WEEK from lightning strikes

4.4 deaths every YEAR from amusement park rides

Over the past 28 years that HIV/AIDS has been carefully tracked by the Centers for Disease Control, there have been only 8 reported, though unconfirmed, cases ofhousehold transmission of the virus. 8 in 28 years 2

(It is important to note that among those 8 cases were hemophiliac brothers sharing razors, some elderly women not using simple universal precautions for years, and some individuals living in bizarrely unsanitary conditions, further proving that under ‘normal’ household conditions, the virus is almost impossible to pass. - Also there have been no further cases since 1994, likely due to vast changes in the ratio of people w/ AIDS vs. HIV and the life altering improvements in medicine.)


· HIV is a virus that infects cells of the immune system.

· Without treatment, HIV is fatal. However WITH treatement people are living almost as long as those without the disease.

· On average, people with HIV need to take medications twice daily. They also need to have lab work and see a specialist quarterly.

· HIV is spread through sex, drug needles and birth.

· HIV is blood borne, not air borne. HIV cannot be spread by saliva, tears, sweat, urine, or feces.

· HIV is not spread through casual, household contact.

· As of 2009 there were over 1 million people with HIV in America.

· Children with HIV are perfectly safe to be around, hug, kiss, and share food and bathrooms with. For this reason, generally people with HIV are not required by law to tell ANYONE about their condition, including schools and even dentists.

Far too many people in the United States still lack basic knowledge about how HIV is and is not transmitted. According to a 2009 national survey conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation, one-third of Americans believed that HIV could be transmitted by sharing a drinking glass, touching a toilet seat, or swimming in a pool with someone who has the virus—all persistent misconceptions. The same survey found that half of adults said they would be uncomfortable having their food prepared by someone with HIV, 42 percent would be uncomfortable with a roommate who had HIV, 23 percent would be uncomfortable with a co-worker with HIV, and 35 percent would be uncomfortable if their child had a teacher with HIV.

The link between ignorance about HIV and stigma toward those with it is clear: 71 percent of the survey respondents who gave incorrect answers about HIV transmission said they would be uncomfortable having their food prepared by someone who had HIV, while only 40 percent of those who gave correct answers said they would be. Forty-three percent of those who gave incorrect answers said they would be uncomfortable working with someone with HIV, while only 13 percent of those who gave correct answers said they would be.

The facts are that your life is more in danger by...jumping on a trampoline, riding bikes, getting into a car, walking down the stairs, playing at the park, playing sports, swimming, etc. than living with someone with HIV.

Friday, August 27, 2010

Our Daughter!


We are overflowing with emotion! Our God is so GOOD! We have found our daughter, "B"!
I must start from the beginning to give this story justice. On April 23 2010 I attended Catalyst, a church leadership conference. It was a leadership conference, not an adoption conference. The second day of Catalyst was almost entirely dedicated to the orphan crisis. Let me tell you I bawled my head off! I was convulsing I was crying so hard. God spoke to me so loudly and clearly that day I had no choice but to obey Him. In my journal on April 23 I wrote
"Today You said to bring her home. Today You said everything holding you back is a lie. She is out there, barely holding on, and she needs you to respond to the prompting of My Spirit."
That was it! I found this gift and bought it for her that same day at the conference!
Before the conference we had been discussing adoption as something we would do in the not so near future. Bart was fully on board to begin the process immediately. We decided we should adopt siblings for reasons I have posted about previously.
A friend of mine told me about a blog she had been reading. The husband is an Orthodontist, they have 4 biological children, and had adopted 2 boys from Ethiopia. They were us in Texas! I read her blog and we began corresponding by email. Soli Deo Gloria is their blog, Team Alexander is an inspirational family, Emily is an amazing woman! Go check out their blog, the link is on my sidebar. Their story is awesome.
We ended up using Gladney who Emily had recommended to me, and they have been incredible.
Part of the paperwork process includes a questionnaire in which you must decide what kind of illnesses or deformities you are willing to accept in a child. It is BRUTAL!
You feel like a loser saying "no" to a child who needs help. We decided since we already had 4 kids we should say no to anything that would have us spending lots of time at the doctors office. We said "no" to HIV.
I could not let it go, I did not feel right about saying no to HIV. I began to do a lot of research about HIV and AIDS. Bart and I had long conversations. We prayed really hard. Finally we decided to change our original answer. We said "yes"!
I told Emily about our decision to adopt HIV+ children. Literally about 30seconds later she emails me back telling me when she was in Ethiopia in June she had met this beautiful little girl at one of Gladney's orphanages. She was 3 yrs. old she was HIV+, and did I want her to email me pictures of her. I said "of course!"
When I saw her picture, and her name "B", practically Bart's namesake :)
I knew she was our daughter! She was beautiful and I just wanted to bring her home! The tears were flowing (as usual).
I immediately called my Gladney caseworker, but it was after hours.
I had to wait till Monday to hear back. Monday afternoon she said "B" was available but she didn't know if she had siblings, and we needed to decide if we would take her by herself.
Tuesday she got back to me and said there were no siblings available for adoption. Bart and I knew "B" was our daughter whether she had siblings or not.
My caseworker cried on the phone with me. This is her job everyday, and she has such a heart for the fatherless that she still cries when one finds a home!
We are now moving as quickly as possible to bring our daughter home!
We are praying to have her home by Christmas, we would love for you to join us in prayer.
I have been crying for days in awe of God. He has orchestrated all of this.
He has ordained our lives and put people in our path to bring us the daughter that He has chosen for us!
This my friends is why adoption is such a beautiful thing. This is the same story we all have! God has adopted each one of us, and He put people in our lives to bring us to Himself.
This is God's story, and I am so honored to play a part in it.
I believe that through our process God is going to turn hearts toward the orphan. They are the heart of God. He has called us to be fathers to the fatherless, to mend the broken hearted.
This is our job as Christians, and frankly we are failing them, and Him!
God has not called every Christian to adopt, but He has called many of us to adopt. Has He called you? Have you asked Him?
Please check out the blogs and the websites on my sidebar. They are full of beautiful stories of those of us who have answered the call. I hope this encourages you to begin asking the question.
I hope you will consider His call to love the least of these.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Melt My Heart

Yesterday I was shoe shopping with Autumn and Aidan (11 & 7). Here is the conversation as we were driving to the store:
Aidan: When I become a daddy I'm gonna get 2 kids by myself and then 7 kids from Africa, or whatever God gives me.
Me: Aidan that's awesome! I love it!
Autumn: I'm not gonna have any kids I'm just gonna adopt all my kids, I'm just not sure how many yet.
Me:(choking back the tears) Wow you guys that is really cool. God is very happy with your love for the orphans. Just don't forget you said this when you get older. :)

I am in awe of my children. This adoption has brought them an awareness of the REAL world we live in. They are becoming more willing to have less so that they can give more to others. We are discovering the difference between needs and wants. As we have been preparing to go back to school they have asked for so much less and a few times when I offered them more they have said "that's ok, I don't really need it!"
God is changing hearts in the Boulton Camp for sure!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Road Trip!

We went on a 9 day, 3000 mile road trip to Yellowstone. We piled in the car LATE Friday night and drove to St. George Utah. Got up Saturday morning and headed to the Farrer (Barts moms family) Family Reunion for the day.
This is Barts family minus his sister Brooke's husband. We had a blast seeing the whole family. The cabins were next to a little river and the kids jumped in some inner tubes and floated the river with their cousins.



Sunday morning we got up and drove from Utah to Island Park Idaho. One of Bart's patients was kind to offer their cabin to us to stay in while we visited Yellowstone.The cabin was beautiful, and the kids referred to it as "The Log Mansion". I got to do a lot of my favorite activity too-READING! I read 2 amazing books from the Gods & Kings series written by Lynn Austin. If you like Francine Rivers you will LOVE Lynn Austin.
The kids were thrilled to get out at every State sign and have their picture taken! (not)

I wish I could post 100 AMAZING photos of Yellowstone, and about 400 average ones :)
This place is incredible, you must go.
Our God is so creative, and His love for beauty so evident.
There were just so many different kinds of beautiful in Yellowstone... See for yourself
Old Faithful was cool!
The bison were even cooler!
May the LORD make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else.
1Thess. 3:12
Future generations will also serve him. Our children will hear about the wonders of the Lord.
Psalm 22:30

We had such a blast spending 9 days together crammed in a car, or in 1 hotel room.
We made memories that will last a lifetime.
I feel so blessed to have such a wonderful husband and such awesome kiddos.
God is so good!

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Part 3 River with the Bruyere's

Went to the river with the Bruyere Bunch and had a Fantastic time!
Autumn and Kailey are the best of friends. They play volleyball together, and hang out as much as we will let them! We feel so blessed that they are in each others lives.
World's Greatest Dad! (and husband) ^
Sharon and her boys.
Aidan learning to Jet Ski
Autumn's first time wakeboarding!
Thanks for being such great friends. We love you guys!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

El Capitan 2010


Here are like 400 pictures of our trip.
Sharon and Karla let me know if you want any!
Click here to view photos

Summer 2010 Part 2

We went to El Capitan State Beach-the REAL "Happiest Place on Earth"
with our BFFs The Bates Family.
We had such a great time!
The boys could not get enough of each other!
Miss Lily Bell is just too cute for words!
Autumn brought Kailey-her very best friend, because their were just too many boys!
Austin is one amazing young man.
Thank you Donnie & Karla for traveling all the way from Georgia to camp with us!
Can't wait for next year.

Summer 2010 Part 1

We have had such an amazing summer!
We have been so busy between vacationing with the kids, our trip to Ethiopia,
and working on adoption stuff I haven't had time to go through pictures and share our trips.
Well here we go!

Bart's youngest brother Brad was married to Abby on June 4th, our 17th Anniversary!
Last day of school .
Pictures with their teachers.
Everyone had great teachers and a great year!
I couldn't get Austin to pose with his teachers :)

In June we went to Vegas with some of our Peeps!
We had a great time, and found out we are WAY too OLD for Vegas clubs! :)
Me with a Leprechaun. Eat your heart out Jenny! :)


We also went to the river with the Corns Family in June.
Had a blast!

Moving Along!

Today I sent in the last of the paperwork!
We have some fingerprints still being processed, and we are waiting for our homestudy to be written.
It is so exciting to see it all moving along.
Once our homestudy is written we will send it to be reviewed by Immigration.
Once we get their approval (usually 6-8 weeks) we will go on the waiting list!
Please pray for all of our paperwork to go through the proper channels smoothly.
We are getting so close, then the waiting begins!